the year that made me whole

It’s been a while since I sat down to simply write. Without structure or intention, without plans or expectation. I’ve been avoiding writing this and simultaneously excited for this day to come and go for 365 days now. A year ago to this date, the entire foundation I had built my life upon was completely […]

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what you can’t fix, you can heal

Some might say I’ve had to learn a lot of things “the hard way” in life. I was molested as a child, I lost my dad unexpectedly at 25-years-old, and I found out that my fiancé was cheating on me 7 days before what was supposed to be my dream wedding, leaving me to deal […]

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what love isn’t.

When you get your heart broken, if you’re anything like me, you want to figure out what you did wrong immediately in order to make sure none of these same shards of heartbreak ever cut you again. I’ve gone back and analyzed every word, every argument; and every hidden meaning I thought might be intertwined […]

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An Open Letter to Anyone Planning to Watch “50 Shades of Grey” This Weekend {written by a survivor of sexual abuse}

An open letter to anyone planning on watching 50 Shades of Grey this weekend,   To be completely honest, I’m worried for the release of this movie. I am worried for the fact that this movie glamorizes aggressive sexual encounters, submissive women, and depicts pain, domination, and animalistic confrontations as intimate and desirable. There is […]

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7 Things Nobody Tells You When You Have A Broken Heart

Things they ‘will’ tell you * It’ll be worth it * You’re better off * You’ll find what you’re looking for * I’m here for you * Time will heal * It’s going to be okay Things they ‘won’t’ tell you 1. Sometimes it feels like it wasn’t worth it. Sometimes the good memories creep in […]

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I Am Who I Am: Why Making The Wrong Choices Led Me To Self-Acceptance

All of our lives, we avoid being “that girl,” for some reason or another. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve reprimanded friends and made them promise not to be “that girl” while discussing our lives. The more I’ve avoided becoming “that girl,” however, the more “that girl” seems to find me. I lived […]

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Who are you giving your love to?

  WHO ARE YOU GIVING YOUR LOVE TO? There I was. Pulled over to the side of the road, tears stinging the back of my eyes. I’d drive if my hands weren’t shaking so badly. I’d leave if I knew staying was going to hurt so much. My heart was beating out of my chest, […]

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Falling in Love: Only on days ending in Y.

A friend texted me out of the blue last week and asked if I ever feel like I want to be in love with someone other than myself. I had to chuckle at the last part because I’m sure he assumed he would get some soapbox “I love myself and that’s all that matters” answer […]

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Save Yourself.

Save Yourself I can see you drowning. Water filling your lungs, you breathe it in deep, Close your eyes, and under you seep. I try to pull you out but you pull me under, And then dive back in after me. I wish I could save you. I wish I could save me, too. It’s […]

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