changing the ending this time

I don’t know how to exist in a healthy relationship. I am literally just barely recognizing that I’ve never even had one, and it’s terrifying to feel like some weird lens has been removed from my eyes. At 30, I’m finally learning (ready to learn? hoping to learn?) skills vital to loving and being loved. […]

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When love comes back

I used to hope that there would be fireworks and confetti when love found me again. I begged for some kind of sign that I would be able to see or hear or feel all the screaming yeses promising me that love had really come back around. I practiced noticing the subtle differences between the […]

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the year that made me whole

It’s been a while since I sat down to simply write. Without structure or intention, without plans or expectation. I’ve been avoiding writing this and simultaneously excited for this day to come and go for 365 days now. A year ago to this date, the entire foundation I had built my life upon was completely […]

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let go of your checklist; let love find you

I used to be so certain about what it was I wanted in a significant other. Funny. Smart. Charming. Kind. Driven. Tall. Active. Ambitious. Smart. I had a laundry list I checked off with each person I met, and I often discovered within the first conversation I knew whether or not we’d be riding off […]

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what love isn’t.

When you get your heart broken, if you’re anything like me, you want to figure out what you did wrong immediately in order to make sure none of these same shards of heartbreak ever cut you again. I’ve gone back and analyzed every word, every argument; and every hidden meaning I thought might be intertwined […]

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This is how we love now;

This is how we love now. Good morning text messages and Facebook official posts. Undressing our clothes as we build walls around our hearts, No one ever truly sees us naked anymore. This is how we love now. Love is not intercepted notes in English class and hanging up each time his dad answers the […]

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Reasons a girl decides she isn’t beautiful:

I remember the first time I met you. I didn’t think you noticed me until you smiled and gave me a thumbs up when the song I requested came on the jukebox. You always loved me for the choices I made; I didn’t have a choice in loving you. Reasons a girl decides she isn’t […]

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10 Reminders for the Heart Who Woke Up Lonely on Thanksgiving

10 Reminders for the Heart Who Woke Up Lonely on Thanksgiving Thanksgiving is a day to count our blessings, spread our love, and share the many reasons we have to be thankful for the abundant joys that fill our lives. It has become a day for apple cider snuggles, chilly football huddles, and pumpkin pie […]

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Why Seeking Love Only Leads To Finding Desperation

Why Seeking Love Only Leads To Finding Desperation We live in a world where everyone is constantly on to the next best thing. Finish school, find the job, get the promotion, and own the business. Find the guy, put a ring on it, and have a bun in the oven by the time the weekend […]

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